T0m@k0's Life

looking at IRB’s website and realised that why the there is an annoucement
“Talian LHDNM sedang mengalami kesesakan pada ketika ini. Waktu terbaik untuk menggunakan Sistem e-Filing adalah di antara
jam 1.00 pagi sehingga jam 7.00 pagi.”
which mean the IRB’s line is experiencing heavy traffic at the time being. The best time to use the e-filing system is between 1.00 am to 7.00 am
so.. today is last day of e-filing for individual and we are saying we gonna wait until 1.00am only file it? that’s mean it’s after the due date d…
what is good annoucement…

Recently there is an outbreak for the Swine flu and the followings are some recommendations from the global security office of my company

1. Stay at home if you are not well. (so meaning i need to stay at home.. cos i’ve been coughing for more than two weeks , but dear employer would you be willing to give me two weeks paid leave?)
2. If you begin to show flu-like symptoms, such as high fever, cough, headache, and muscle pain, consult your physician immediately. Anti-viral medication, taken within the first 48-hours, has proven thus far to be effective. (oops i’ve been sick for more than two weeks.. so now no matter what medicine i take also would not be effective?)
3. Practice good hygiene, such as frequent hand washing. (i’ve gotta go to pantry more often?? luckily it’s just nearby the place i’m sitting)
4. Cover coughs and sneezes with your elbows to minimize potential virus spread. (yes i tried to cover my nose everytime i sneeze ;))
5. Avoid sick people (how to avoid sick people? don’t go to work? or sick people should be quaranteen in a room call sick room?).
6. This strain of swine flu is unique and has not been seen before in humans. There no specific vaccine currently available. The regular seasonal flu vaccine is unlikely to provide protection.(no vaccine… meaning no cure?)

taken from some website which i forget what is the link after putting it on my draft for such a long time 😛

晚上在網路上亂逛，讀到Phyllis這篇《敗犬的遠吠》書摘，當下起了一身冷汗。敗犬這個名詞不算新，是日本人給過適婚年齡而未婚女性取的貶稱。姑且不論日本社會為什麼視結婚為勝利、單身為挫敗，甚至會說出「美麗又能幹的女人，只要過了適婚年齡還是單身，就是一隻敗犬；平庸又無能的女人，只要結婚生子，就是一隻勝犬」這種殘酷到讓人想咬舌自盡的話，這篇書摘對有點年紀的單身女性而言，驚嚇指數絕對破表。看來算命的說我三十七歲才會嫁，真不是臭蓋的。

以下是我就書摘中幾項特徵和準則自我檢視的結果，如果妳懷疑自己或身邊哪位女性朋友是敗犬一族，不妨跟著做做看：

◎敗犬的特徵

1. 敗犬可以靠自己的力量達到某種程度的收入。全心投入工作，離婚姻也越來越遠。

本人雖然賺不了大錢還背了一身留學債，但收入確實可以自給自足不會餓死。

2. 敗犬很在意與異性邂逅的方式。喜歡自由戀愛更勝於相親，因為敗犬將自己的價值感與被他人喜愛、受歡迎的程度劃上等號。

不會介意真命天子是從網路上還是夜市釣來的啦，可是自由戀愛確實比相親飯局吸引我一百倍，至少可以自由選擇對方頭髮的密度啊。

3. 興趣狂熱（舞蹈、旅行、樂器、手工藝成癮症）。三十歲世代所發起的日本文化回歸現象興盛。因為經濟不虞匱乏，對許多原本年紀較大時才有金錢與時間餘裕去做的事，也能即刻去做了。

興趣狂熱？好險，應該不是指我這個放假只會看電視睡覺上網逛夜市，不學無術的懶散鬼。

4. 敗犬的裝扮既不寒酸也不邋遢，斥資不菲、有品味正是最典型的敗犬裝扮。跟那些與社會目光幾乎絕緣的家庭主婦不同，敗犬長期處於「被觀察」的狀態，並在社會目光的注視下活到現在，因此練就一身完美的裝扮工夫。

斥資不菲有品味這點完全不符合我的形象，窮酸邋遢比較接近現狀。剛剛掐指一算，我已經三年沒用過腮紅和眼影了。

5. 生活模式類似老年人。

包括晚上看電視看到睡著，每天早上七點﹝含周末﹞不用鬧鐘就會自然醒嗎？

6. 既可怕又天真。嫉妒年輕人。

難怪我每次去西門町，胸口都有灼熱感，原來不是洋蔥，是強酸啊。

◎不成為敗犬的十大準則

1. 不跟有婦之夫搞婚外情。只是玩玩的好奇心，會導致妳走上冤枉路。

目前沒跟誰搞婚外情，未來應該也不會。跟別人分享有什麼好玩的，男人體力還減半哩，真划不來。

2. 不使用男性專用的語法。不要太男性化。無論多受歡迎，「老娘」這種字眼絕對要避免出口。

馬的，這不是在說老娘嗎？

3. 不將雙手交叉於胸前。不要讓人覺得「我處於警戒狀態」、「我在自我保護」。

哪有？﹝雙手交叉﹞

4. 要閱讀女性雜誌。選擇閱讀勝犬派的雜誌。這類雜誌教導勝犬們不要思考或者回想對別人而言不具任何意義的問題；要堅信只要得到「先生、孩子、金錢、打扮」就等於得到幸福。

難怪最近經過7-11有買FHM和GQ的衝動，原來是太久沒有用勝犬讀物陶冶心靈。趕明兒我來學水水麻豆們都怎麼化出偷心小惡魔妝，順便研究一下2007年早春二十五款激瘦美腿牛仔褲哪條才是必敗單品。

5. 經常選用膚色褲襪。穿著膚色絲襪就是要昭告世人：「我是個普通的女人。」

我也想當普通女人啊，可不管是什麼顏色的褲襪，在我腿上平均壽命都只有兩小時。

6. 不獨自旅行。學習不要獨處，以免過度沈溺在這種狀態，會變得無法與別人相處。

獨自旅行是無聊了點，不過我發現自己愈來愈享受每天上班前的獨處時光，有時甚至還會提早起床一小時，只為了延長這段無人打擾的幸福。這樣算不算過度沉溺？

7. 不害怕被女性朋友厭惡。在同性間的人緣再好也無法讓妳的父母抱孫子。博取男人歡迎的賤招就盡可能的使出來吧。

我的異性緣不錯，但都是手足之情，不是可以抱孫子的那種。誰來教我幾招當bitch的賤招？

8. 不讓別人稱呼自己的姓氏。想成為勝犬的話，每到一個新環境就要厚著臉皮的自動說出：「請叫我順子就可以了。」要盡可能凸顯自己的女性特質。

從小到大，大家都連名帶姓的喚我。唯一不直呼我名諱的男性友人管我叫「寶貝豬」。﹝這樣有比較女性化嗎？﹞

9. 不說「沒問題」。別逞強。別主動付錢。這種態度會讓男性反感。

沒問題，不主動付錢這種小事有什麼難？

10. 要以長遠的眼光看事情。要以結婚為前提，堅定而執意的去完成它。

很明顯，在結婚這件事上，我是個目光如豆又意志軟弱的女人。

◎測驗結果

成績單出爐，「敗犬特徵」中，本人6項中4項；「不成為敗犬的準則」中，10項有9項不及格。也就是說，如果結合這兩個測驗成為一張敗犬量表，16項指標中，我竟然符合13項，是條81%的敗犬。

事到如今，除了每天早上仰天大喊一聲「汪汪」，又能如何？

my boss told me yesterday he is coming in late.
(WTF.. after letting him know that you can actually take two hour time off per day and max 4 hours per month… he fully utilised his rights as an employee)

then i start my day with doing some billing in order to meet my monthly budget.
i guessed i gotta meet the budget in order for the group to get good bonus in this bad economical condition.
better try my very best by all means.
so i did my best and i hope that my best is enough la..
so everything throw to my boss for approval la..
he is a speedy person when he is efficient

then i’m waiting for him to be back to confirm with the liquidator on certain issues.
waited for half a day he never turn up
is it possible that my boss ‘ponteng kerja’?
everytime heard of school children ponteng sekolah…
how about boss ponteng kerja?

then after i had my lunch with my insurance agent
my staff told me there is good news and bad news
the bad news is my boss is on MC
and the good news is the tax return of over 120++ has been signed back
ai.. who cares whether my manager is on MC or not..

i’m sick for two weeks already i also i dun dare to take MC..
but i think it’s important to stay at home and to go back to work when you are fit.

heard bad comment from staff about my boss…
but just best to keep it to myself.
i guessed we are still a new team
of course sometimes boss got criticized by staff
but i think if we do what we should do
we should not be afraid of whatever criticizes from others.

so i intend to let other managers to review the tax computation on behalf of my manager
but nobody is around and free to review it.
so things have to wait.
but we are concern whether boss will come in on time to review all the documents. hopefully he is find and able to come back to work 2moro

cos of his absent, i have to postpone the meeting with the liquidator to understand certain issue on one of the companies.
but it seems like it had given me more time to relax and think
but now is peak period and time is running short.
we would like to have things to be as smooth as possible

stay quite late to wait for my colleague to file in partial of the 100 over tax return.
hopefully all the filing would be able to be done by end of 2moro
still got one tax computation to go
hopefully after everything is being sent out.
no further amendments is to be made.
very tired of amendments already.
ok gotta start finished reviewing my last tax computation lur…

sometimes i guessed we should be thankful for the relationship we have.
why must we find somebody to ‘slot between’ when we got a stable relationship?

what’s the fun of having an affair?
cos of the excitement behind?
won’t u feel sorry to your current relationship if you hav an affair with another?

i’m not too sure about this…
i’m doubtful 😛

sometimes i wonder why others to go after them in a relationship
they are not very beautiful neither are they attractive (maybe to me)
but they have a lot of bees and flies going after them

sometimes i wonder why i do not have bees and flies going after myself.
i wonder cos i’m not attractive enough?
haha…
or maybe i try to keep myself away from relationship?

last weekend did a lot of things.

Saturday
morning we went to FRIM again for a morning walk. Never realised that the small small forest is actually so big 😉
and i’ve calculated how long we need to walk inside in order to complete the forest.
the sky was quite cloudy when we started to walk..
and goh joo joo say i’m ‘dark bird’ cos every time i wanted to go FRIM it will ended up raining.
but luckily the weather was just nice for us to complete the walk in the forest.
and the warm sun just rise and shine after we complete the hill 😉

later we stay home for a while and went for lunch at natural which is nearby my office.
then i went back to office to complete the review of engagement letter, billing and stuff..
tiring.
and also waiting for my old manager to help her to fix her computer.
but i did not managed to fix it.
cos i’m computer illiterate?
never mind will try sometime in the future.

then went back to have dinner.
family dinner with all the uncle
cos uncle Beng Kar is flying off to OZ
and might not be coming back for some time.
after the dinner we have small chit chat at home
and to my surprise my cousin hactor told me that i did something which i have no memory of it.
haha.. it’s either he is lying or …
i have suffered memory lost.

Sunday
did not wake up too early.
but suddenly feel like wanna try to cook something special.
so i decided to try to cook scramble egg
when i started to cook…
just realised the ingreediant to cook is not available…
so i gotta wake mr goh up and ask him to go to the supermarket

so off we go to supermarket.
there’s a lot of people in J and it’s just early in the morning.
we did our shopping quicky
tried not to spend too much of our time in the shopping centre as we might end up using more money at the end.
however, i found that the ingrediant that i’m looking for to cook is not available at JJ..
then have to go to another hypermarket opposite.

so off we go again…
again the hypermarket is crowded.
a lot of people waiting for trolley
which they do not know where to get it.
and you have to wait for long que even with the presence of the express lane.

after shopping, we went home and i started cooking.
tried to cook scramble egg.. but bcos i’ve not put enough milk scranble egg bcame fried egg.
but with the intention for experiment and testing..
we tried another one.
this time success but doesn’t taste too nice..
never mind will experiment again next time.

i cooked again abolone mushroom soup with a little help from campbel soup.
should be nice but yet there is room for improvement.

the afternoon was hot and i have to crack my head to think of how to do billing for the client which recently dropped us.
how to recover the time cost.
whether it’s profitable or not.

at nite..
goh joo joo went for sport with his brother
and i ended up helping his sister in law doing e-filing again
i should use this skill to cari makan and sponsor our Taiwan trip…
haha…
so.. anybody need help in doing their tax return????

說話

有時候，你被人誤解，自己不想爭辯，所以選擇沈默。
本來就不是所有的人都得了解自己，因此你認為不必對全世界喊話。

卻也有時候，你被最愛的人誤解，自己難過到不想爭辯，也只有選擇沈默。
全世界都可以不懂你，但他應該懂，若他竟然不能懂，還有什麼話可說?

那麼，不想說話，就不說吧，在多說無益的時候，也許沈默就是最好的解釋。

以退為進，以默為辯。

至少要平靜

在你跌入人生谷底的時候，身旁的人都告訴你：要堅強，而且要快樂。
堅強是絕對需要的，但是快樂?在這種情形下，恐怕是太為難你了。

畢竟，誰能在跌得頭破血流的時候還覺得高興？
但是至少可以做到平靜。平靜地看待這件事，平靜地把其他該處理的事處理好。

平靜，沒有快樂，也沒有不快樂。能做到這一點，你就已經有了復元的能量。

靜則明，動則昏。

彎腰

和別人發生意見上的紛歧，甚至造成言語上的衝突，所以你悶悶不樂，因為你覺得都是別人惡意。

別再耿耿於懷了，回家去擦地板吧。
拎一塊抹布，彎下腰，雙膝著地，把你面前這張地板的每個角落來回擦拭乾淨。

然後重新省思自己在那場衝突，所說過的每一句話。
現在，你發現自己其實也有不對的地方，是不是?
你漸漸心平氣和了，是不是?

有時候你必須學習彎腰，因為這個動作可以讓自己謙卑。
勞動身體的同時，你也擦亮了自己的心緒。
而且，還擁有了一張光潔的地板呢。這是你的另一個收穫。

謙卑中求，恭敬中求，無私中求。

單純

因為思慮過多，所以你常常把自己的人生複雜化了。
明明是活在現在，卻總是念念不忘著過去，又憂心忡忡著未來；
堅持攜帶著過去、未來與現在同行，你的人生當然拖泥帶水。

單純是一種恩寵狀態。
單純地以皮膚感受天氣的變化，
單純地以鼻腔品嘗雨後的草香，
單純地以眼睛統攝遠山近景。

單純地活在當下。　而當下其實無所謂是非真假。
既然沒有是非，就不必思慮；
沒有真假，就無須念念不忘又憂心忡忡。

無是非真假，不就像在做夢一樣了嗎?
就單純地把自己的人生當成夢境去執行吧。

用單純的心，處理複雜的事。

別浪費了

今天的你又不開心了，因為又有人在言語間刺傷了你。

你不喜歡吵架，所以你離開；
可是你只是離開了那，卻沒有離開被那人傷害的情境，因此你愈想愈生氣。

愈有氣，你就愈沒有力氣去理會別的事情，
許多更該用心去做去想去處理的事件，
就在你漫天漫地的心煩意亂之中，
被輕忽被漠視被省略了。

因為，你只是一心一意地在生氣。
在情緒上做文章，這是對自己的浪費，而且是很壞的浪費。

畢竟，生氣也是要花力氣的，而且，生氣一定傷元氣。
所以，聰明的你，別讓情緒控制了你，
當你又要生氣之前，不妨輕聲地提醒自己一句：別浪費了。

有些人常起煩惱，
因為別人一句無心的話，他卻有意的接受。

悄悄

曾經有一段時間，你心情低落，甚至懶得拉開窗簾，看著窗外的陽光。
因此你當然也忘了，去看看窗台上那一盆每天都需要喝水的瑪格麗特。

不知過了多久，總算有一天，你度過了心情的低潮，同時也想起了你的瑪格麗特。
天啊，可憐的花，她還活著嗎？你戰戰兢兢地拉開窗簾，卻見她迎風招搖，花顏可
掬。

原來在過去的這段日子裡，你雖然忘了餵她喝水，老天卻沒忘了以雨露眷顧她呢。

許多事物悄悄地在你的視線之外進行，而且悄悄地安排好了它們自己。
天生萬物，天養萬物，一切其實無須擔心。

一個人性格不改，煩惱將無窮無盡。
每封信都代表一份緣的傳遞…….
看信是一種幸福、它代表你有空閒..
沒空看信也是一種幸福
它代表你有比看信更重要的事忙著..